Is desire/ coveting the greatest link between lust and hatred? 510-2 - 13 - 2

God is very direct in his prohibition against coveting. In my opinion, desire leading to coveting is the first step in lusting for something/ someone. When desire controls the lust filled person and he cannot have the object of his lust does it not turn into hatred?

This seems to be the case with David's Son Amnon and Amnon's half-sister Tamar. Amnon used trickery to get his half-sister to come to his home and feed him. He then forced himself on her, soiling her virginity. There still might have been Redemption for Amnon had he married his half-sister, allowed at that time by Jewish tradition. However, 2 Samuel 13:15, "Then Amnon hated her exceedingly; so that the hatred wherewith he hated her was greater than the love wherewith he had loved her. And Amnon said unto her, Arise, be gone." Amnon had Tamar forcibly removed from his home further dishonoring her.

In digging into Amnon's behavior via Strong's; Hated, H8135, From H8130; hate; exceedingly, hateful, hatred. H8130, to hate (personally): enemy, foe, be hateful, odious, utterly. No question that what Amnon feel for Tamar was lust, not love. When he had his way with her, he threw her aside.

2 Samuel 13:16, "And she said unto him, There is no cause: this evil in sending me away is greater than the other that thou didst unto me. But he would not hearken unto her". Tamar's brother Absalom would avenge his sister two years later by arranging the murder of his half-brother Amnon.  

CM mentioned Joseph's coat of many colors and the Virgin Tamar's coat of many colors. Both would be stained with blood, one in a fabrication of the death of Joseph and the other due to the rupture Tamar's hymen. We read in Genesis 50:20, "But as for you, ye thought evil against me; but God meant it unto good, to bring to pass, as it is this day, to save much people alive." There was no good in the rape of Tamar by Amnon, rather more as prophesied by Nathan, 2 Samuel 12:10, "Now therefore the sword shall never depart from thine house; because thou hast despised me, and hast taken the wife of Uriah the Hittite to be thy wife."

Coveting/ lust is major tool in Saran’s toolbox. God called King David “a man after his own heart,” however, the sword never departed from his house. Murders and betrayals were legion with the descendants of King David. Very notably were the horrific actions around King Jehoram of Judah and his wife Athaliah.